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Butterfly Season by Ella Langley

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Summer's all fun and games until...

Someone gets in trouble. It's inevitable. And with rotating camp counselors and free play, it can be hard to hold your child accountable.

As an elementary school teacher I've spent a decade thinking about the best way to provide consequences- I've tried everything.

Once I started using Logical Consequences, things got so much better! I've seen countless parents use this technique too.

Logical Consequences take the pressure off you as a disciplinarian to instead focus on the issue.

What are Logical Consequences?

A Logical Consequence is a reasonable, respectful, related response to an incident.

These are real life consequences that make sense with the incident. They work with all ages. I find them particularly effective with young children.

Logical Consequences should follow the 3R's

• Related: the consequence should be related to the incident, and happen as soon as possible.
  • For example, your child was already warned to stop throwing dice in the game, but they continue. As a consequence, you could calmly say they aren't allowed to roll dice anymore OR remove them from the game (but they could play something else or watch).
  • An unrelated consequence would be saying "you can't go to ___'s house later"
• Respectful: No need to yell or drive the point home. Keep it calm, firm, and let the consequence speak for itself.
  • For example if you find your child making a mess in the kitchen, instead of shouting "what are you doing?!" you can calmly hand them the broom to clean up.
• Reasonable: The consequence should match the severity of the issue.
  • For example, if your child snuck extra iPad time, a reasonable consequence would be to remove the iPad, discuss it, and agree to lose iPad time that evening.
  • Unreasonable would be taking away iPad for the rest of the month.

Let's say it's a repeated issue- you can increase the consequences.

• For example, if you're child has been pushing on the playground. This has been happening all week. You can give them one warning. And then if they continue to push, leave the playground. Have a good conversation once you're home, and then keep it moving.

Further reading for parents and for teachers​

Logical Consequences look different for every family and situation. The biggest pieces are to follow the 3 R's, keep your cool, and stay consistent. How do you use logical consequences with your family?

What's New?

🎂 HAPPY BIRTHDAY: Happy Happy Birthday to my incredible husband, Mike!!! I can't wait to celebrate with you this weekend.

🎤 Mic Drop: Last week I went to the Mic Drop Conference. It was a BLAST. I learned techniques to be a dynamic speaker and run my business plus made a lot of new friends.

😮‍💨 How does she do it?: If you've been around for a while, then you know I do it all. I meet with parents of kids aged 3-11, host workshops, public speak, run a Youtube Channel, tutor, and sell digital products. I'm proud of what I've built- but I'll be honest, it's a lot. I know I need to streamline, but it's to let go of things. If you're a business consultant (or know one) shoot your shot- I need help from someone experienced!

Things I Love

🌸 Super Cute: Last weekend when I popped by Nordstrom Rack, I picked up this layering top. It's a little denim tie up top. It looks perfect over my sundresses and makes them work appropriate.

✏️ Summer Structure: One simple way to add structure to your child's summer routine is with workbooks. A lot of families will make it part of their morning routine to stay sharp and build in important quiet time. I love the Summer Bridge and Evan-Moor workbooks.

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